Meet Mark & Arian

This year, the blog is going to follow the lives of Mark and Arian. This great couple is representative in many ways of the people who have sought my support over the years. Like many couples, Mark & Arian have relationship problems, personal struggles and family issues. However, they also have strength, insight and resilience.

This post provides some background into their relationship, and their story, to help us better understand their marriage counselling journey.


Mark & Arian continue practising their communication skills and explore each other’s emotional responses to the situations they find themselves in. Being open an honest with each other, and listening with curiosity help them to resolve a parenting conflict. There is still a lot for them to learn about each other, but they have begun a rewarding journey of discovery and change together.

Negotiations About Parenting: The Teenager Who Pushes Boundaries

Mark and Arian have been working on improving their relationship through better communication. They have spent a couple of weeks practising, as a result, are feeling a little more confident. But, with a teenager who pushes boundaries, some parenting conflicts have arisen. Will Mark and Arian’s newly acquired communication skills help them work through this together? 

Humble Beginnings Along a Bumpy Road: From Reactive Victim to Curious Listener

After reaching their breaking point in last weeks blog, Mark & Arian meet with their counsellor and work on some communication skills using suggested exercises. While their first attempt at this exercise triggers some emotional reactions, they have taken the first step to learn the skills they need to communicate with each other. See if you recognise some of these things in your conversations with your partner, and take the first step to go from a reactive victim to a curious listener.

Communication: Mark & Arian Reach A Breaking Point

Communication issues effect a lot of couples. Mark & Arian are no exception. But communication is only the end product of the complex interactions between the existing ‘maps’ in our brain that determine how we perceive incoming information. In this blog, Mark & Arian reach a breaking point in their communication and seek help to learn to communicate with one another better. Learn the basics of communication and see how you can put these skills to use to improve your relationship.