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Meet Mark & Arian

Meet Mark & Arian

This year, the blog is going to follow the lives of Mark and Arian. This great couple is representative in many ways of the people who have sought my support over the years. Like many couples, Mark & Arian have relationship problems, personal struggles and family issues. However, they also have strength, insight and resilience. This post provides some background into their relationship, and their story, to help us better understand their marriage counselling journey.
Let’s talk (a little more) about sex

Let’s talk (a little more) about sex

Mark and Arian explore the journey of their sex life. And find some clues about how they ended up where they are now! After their first exploration into their broken down intimate connection, Mark and Arian return to counselling for more guidance. Between Duty and...

Intimacy and Sex: a place to go to rather than a thing to do

Intimacy and Sex: a place to go to rather than a thing to do

The latest conversations about healthy connection has brought up the topic of sex and intimacy for Arian and Mark. Not surprising, their needs, expectations, hopes and fears differ widely in this area. They have never really known how to talk it out.  From connection...

Moving from symbiosis to differentiation: how it’s done

Moving from symbiosis to differentiation: how it’s done

Read here about the dynamic of symbiosis Mark and Arian got stuck in. Once Arian and Mark understand this dynamic, they re-open the conversation first from an emotional perspective.  Mark feels stressed and overwhelmed, he is trying to deal with it by drawing...

Negotiating connection: it’s complicated…

Negotiating connection: it’s complicated…

If you need a quick update on Arian’s and Mark’s ‘history’ you can find it here. After having opened the topic of connection between the two of them, Arian realises that she needs a lot less of it than Mark. But then she is unclear about her needs. While it has become...

Relational living: Mark is asking for more connection.

Relational living: Mark is asking for more connection.

With Mark having focused on his own journey for a while, Arian has watched him from a distance. Mark realises that his hopes for more connection with Arian have not been fulfilled. In the meantime, Arian feels that Mark is busy learning all this stuff about inner...